Aubri Lancaster, CSE - Sexuality Educator

04/17/2026

Stop means Stop!
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[Image of a stop sign]
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Teaching children that stop means stop starts with modeling this as adults when playing with children.
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LISTEN when children tell you to stop tickling, teasing, touching, or chasing them. When you push past their “Stop” you teach them how they can push past someone else’s “Stop” tomorrow.
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When you hear “Stop” you need to STOP and pause and do a consent check and see if they invite you back in to play. If they don’t, then it is no longer mutual play.
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04/15/2026

Now Offering Supervision
Supervision for s*xuality professionals seeking specialized, affirming,
non-normative frameworks in areas most of us are undertrained in!
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Focus Areas:
As*xuality
Aromanticism
Limerence
Virtual Training
Networking
Social Media
Slide Development
Accessibility
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Book a free 30-min discovery call (link in bio)
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04/15/2026

Ace Rep in Romance Novels
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“Joy studied movies because she had to. She literally thought everyone was making s*xual attraction up. She'd heard countless people describe it, read literally hundreds of romance novels -- there's never any feelings low in her belly,
no shivers down her spine. She doesn't have to cross her legs at the sight of veiny forearms, perky breasts, bubble butts, or perfect abs. It just doesn't happen.
The day she realized it was, in fact, a very real thing absolutely blew her mind.”
― Claire Kann
The Romantic Agenda
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04/10/2026

Happy Siblings Day!
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What if your siblings were your life companions and co-parents?
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In Marriage, a History, Stephanie Coontz talks about the Na (Mosuo) of the Yunnan Province of southwestern China. This matrilineal society traditionally centers the female head of the household and her children,
along with her siblings.
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Her s*xual relationships are with men outside of her family, but the fathers of her children typically have minimal involvement
and do not live with them. Instead, men take on active roles raising the children of their sisters within the household.
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How would you feel about centering your life and long-term companionship around familial bonds rather than s*xual and/or romantic relationships?
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04/08/2026

“Excluding as*xuals from q***rness under the belief that we do not experience discrimination and trauma “enough” only serves to reproduce the same harms as cisheteropatriarcy. Being subjected to and harmed by compulsory s*xuality, r**e culture, and acephobia is traumatic, and the denial of this works to obscure the very ways in which as*xuals have been harmed by people within q***r communities.”
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-Sherronda J Brown
Refusing Compulsory S*xuality: A Black As*xual Lens on our S*x Obsessed Culture
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04/07/2026

Back by Request!
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Slide Decks for Health & Wellness Professionals
Zoom Workshop! 1.5 AASECT CEs!
with Aubri Lancaster (Bri/she) BA², CSE
AASECT Certified S*xuality Educator
ANTE UP! Certified
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A practical skills workshop for professionals who want their slide decks to be clear, accessible, engaging, and ethically sourced.
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Live attendance required for CEs.
Slides & 30-day recording provided.
No CEs for recording.
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Monday May 4th
12-1:30pm PT (3-4:30pm ET)
Pay What You Can - Suggested Range $20-$45
https://vist.ly/4xmdq (link in Bio)
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Feedback from attendees when asked “What was the most valuable aspect of this training for your work or perspective?”*
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“Learning new ways to visually enhance my slide decks and make them more engaging to my audience.”
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“The suggestion to do a copywrite in a footer.”
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“Having you model so many practices around online presentations - I learned so much from you! Thank you!”
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*Shared with permission.
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04/06/2026

Happy International As*xuality Day!
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As*xual describes people who experience little to no s*xual attraction.
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As*xual people may never experience s*xual attraction, or rarely experience it, or only under certain circumstances.
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As*xual people may have no lib!do, or low lib!do, or typical lib!do, or high lib!do.
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As*xual people may be favorable towards having s*x, indifferent towards having s*x, averse towards having s*x, or repulsed towards having s*x.
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As*xual people may differentiate forms of attraction such as Romantic Attraction, Aesthetic Attraction, Sensual Attraction, Emotional Attraction, Intellectual Attraction, Platonic Attraction, S*xual Attraction, Spiritual Attraction, and more. And they may experience some of these rarely or not at all too.
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Include As*xuality in all conversations around S*xual Orientation and S*xual Desire.
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As*xuality is a spectrum, an umbrella, and a shield. If the label feels right, use it.
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04/02/2026

Upcoming Courses on Limerence, As*xuality, and Aromanticism
with Aubri Lancaster (Bri/she) BA², CSE
AASECT Certified S*xuality Educator
ANTE UP! Certified
Links in Bio or go to AceS*xEducation.com for Registrations
Live 6-hour synchronous interactive small group Zoom trainings.
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Demystifying Limerence & Romantic Love: Extended Edition (6 AASECT CEs)
May - Tuesday May 12th & 19th - 11am-2:15pm PT (2pm-5:15pm ET)
Nov - INTENSIVE - Sunday Nov 15th - 10am-5pm PT (1pm-8pm ET)
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Explore the characteristics, stages, and mechanics of Romantic Love through Limerence Theory and an Aromantic Lens.
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As*xuality and Aromanticism: Frameworks, Language, & Thriving (6 AASECT CEs)
July - INTENSIVE - Sunday July 12th - 10am-5pm (1pm-8pm ET)
Jan '27 - Tuesday Jan 12th & 19th - 11am-2:15pm PT (2pm-5:15pm ET)
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Comprehensive exploration of how we understand attraction, identity, desires, and relationships to support as*xual and aromantic lives.
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As*xuality and the Invention of 'Normal': Across S*x, Gender, & Orientation (6 AASECT CEs)
Sept - Tuesday Sept 8th & 15th - 11am-2:15pm PT (2pm-5:15pm ET)
April '27 - INTENSIVE - Sunday Apr 4th - 10am-5pm PT (1pm-8pm ET)
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“Normal” is a conflation of mean, median, mode, typical, and ideal. If you’ve ever wondered what this word really means, you will love diving down this rabbit hole with us!
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These programs meet the requirements of the American Association of S*xuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and are approved for CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT certification and renewal of certification.
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03/31/2026

Non-S*xual Climax
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Or**sm is one way to “Peak”
but it’s not the only way...
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Laughing
Crying
Yawning
The “Aha” Moment
Butterflies in your Stomach
Goosebump Shivers
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What would you add to this list?
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03/31/2026

Another insightful article from Canton Winer, exploring the reasons behind the ambiguity of the language of As*xuality. I fully support this reasoning, much to the frustration and often confounding of my colleagues in the S*xuality field.

What if ambiguity isn’t the problem with as*xuality—but the point?

03/28/2026

As*xual Pleasure: Beyond the 5 Senses
Zoom Workshop!
1.5 AASECT CEs!
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with Aubri Lancaster (Bri/she) BA², CSE
AASECT Certified S*xuality Educator
ANTE UP! Certified
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What brings you sensory joy and pleasure in your life and relationships outside of a s*xual context?
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Live attendance required for CEs.
Slides & 30-day recording provided.
No CEs for recording.
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Thursday April 30th
12-1:30pm PT (3-4:30pm ET)
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https://vist.ly/4wfpx (link in Bio)
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03/25/2026

Finally some more news on Heartstopper!

Volume 6 is set to hit shelves in July—and the finale film should arrive shortly after.